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Engagement party invitations both families can answer

Send the engagement party invite by text, email, or group chat. Each household replies in two taps, partners included, and you see one headcount.

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Example headcount (Four households · one engagement party): each family's reply, and 2 families still to nudge.
Example headcountFour households · one engagement party
  • The Patels
    Raj, Meera
    2 attending

    Bringing the sweets

  • Aunt Teresa
    Teresa
    Maybe
  • The Okafors
    Ada, Chidi, Nnamdi
    No reply
  • Lauren & Chris
    Lauren, Chris
    2 attending

    So happy for you both!

Families to nudge2

Who do you invite to an engagement party?

Close family and friends from both sides. Traditionally, everyone invited to the engagement party is also invited to the wedding. Send each household its own link by text or email, and both families reply in two taps, with no account.

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Try your engagement photo or a painted design free; guests see it once the event has Plus ($12).

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An engagement party is often the first time both families meet

Parents, grandparents, college friends, and coworkers from both sides end up in one room. They don't share a group chat, and half of them have never texted each other.

Add each household and send each its own link. One person answers for everyone listed, so couples and kids are counted without a follow-up text.

Whoever hosts (parents, friends, or the couple) can add co-hosts, so both families work from the same count.

Engagement party invitation wording

Fill in the brackets, then text it, email it, or paste it into the invite.

  • Casual, by text

    For a party the couple or their friends are throwing.

    We're engaged! Come celebrate with us on [day, date] at [time] at [place]. Drinks, dessert, and lots of hugs. Please RSVP by [date]: [link]

  • Hosted by parents

    The traditional wording, with the hosts named first.

    Please join [host names] for an engagement party honoring [Name] and [Name] on [day, date] at [time], [place]. Kindly reply by [date]: [link]

  • Meet the families

    For a brunch or dinner where both sides meet for the first time.

    [Name] and [Name] are engaged, and we'd love for our families to meet before the wedding. Join us for brunch on [day, date] at [time], [place]. RSVP by [date]: [link]

  • Backyard barbecue

    For a relaxed party with kids running around.

    They're engaged! Come toast [Name] and [Name] at a backyard barbecue on [day, date] at [time], [address]. Kids welcome, dress casual. Let us know who's coming by [date]: [link]

  • Surprise announcement

    When the party is how you tell everyone.

    You're invited to dinner at our place on [day, date] at [time]. We have some news to share! Please RSVP by [date]: [link]

Where engagement party RSVPs get lost

Two families, no shared chat
The couple's families don't know each other yet, so replies scatter across texts, emails, and calls to whoever's hosting.
Partners answer as one
“We'll be there” could mean one guest or two, and nobody wants to ask.
Hosts keep separate counts
One set of parents hosts, the other invites half the list, and each hears different answers.
The venue wants a number
A restaurant or caterer needs a count a week out, and the last replies arrive the night before.

Three steps from invite to headcount

Both families, a link for each household, and one count.

  1. Add both families

    Add each household with the people invited, from both sides. Add the other hosts as co-hosts so they can add their own guests.

  2. Send each household a link

    Text it, email it, or send it on WhatsApp. Guests read the date and place, then tap Yes, No, or Maybe for each person, with no account or app.

  3. Watch the count, nudge the quiet ones

    Your dashboard shows who's coming, who's a maybe, and who hasn't replied. Copy a nudge for each household that hasn't answered and send it yourself.

Made for whoever's hosting

Couples counted, ready-to-send nudges, and co-hosts. No guest accounts.

Co-hosts see the same count
Both sets of parents, or the friends throwing it, work from one dashboard and one list.
Couples counted correctly
Name both partners, and each gets a yes or no in your count. Kids are counted by name too.
Your engagement photo
Try any painted design free. Guests see it, or your own engagement photo as the cover, once the event has Plus ($12).

Ask how they know the couple

Add an optional question guests answer with their RSVP. In a room where two families meet, “how do you know them?” gives everyone something to talk about.

One RSVP question is free. Families can answer or skip it.

Example optional RSVP question and answer.

How do you know the couple?

Optional

A family's answer

Marcus's college roommate. I introduced them!

Send this with each link

A short note from you gets more replies than a bare link. Paste it into the text or email with each household's link.

We're throwing an engagement party for [Names] on [date]! Here's your RSVP link, so we get the count right. Details are on the invite. Please reply by [date], no account needed.

Who it's for

  • Engagement parties hosted by parents, friends, or the couple
  • Guest lists from two families who don't share a group chat
  • Brunches, dinners, and backyard parties with a count to give
  • Couples who'd rather text the invite than mail it

Questions

Common questions about engagement party invitations and RSVPs.

How do you send engagement party invitations online?

Create the party, add each household from both families, and send each one its own link by text, email, or chat. Guests reply in two taps without an account, and you see who's coming in one list. It's free, with no ads.

Who hosts an engagement party?

Traditionally the bride's parents. Today it's often either set of parents, close friends, or the couple themselves, and several hosts can share one event as co-hosts.

How do you word an engagement party invitation?

Name the hosts if they aren't the couple, then the couple, the date, time, and place, and how to RSVP by when. Copy any of the wording above.

When should you send engagement party invitations?

Three to six weeks before the party, and earlier if guests need to travel.

Do guests bring gifts to an engagement party?

Gifts are optional. Many guests bring a card or something small, and registry details traditionally stay off the invitation.

Are these engagement party invitations free?

Yes. Hejmo is free for unlimited events, with RSVP tracking, a private link per household, nudges, co-hosts, and one RSVP question. There are no ads on the invite. Plus is optional: $12 for one event adds invitation styles, illustrated covers or your own cover photo, an animated preview that plays in iMessage, a custom link, a custom RSVP confirmation, and up to five RSVP questions.

Can I put our engagement photo on the invitation?

Yes, with Plus ($12 once for the event). Upload your photo as the cover, and guests see it on the invite and in the link preview. Trying it is free.

Do guests need an app or an account?

No. The link opens in any phone or computer browser, and guests reply in two taps.

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