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Friendsgiving Invitation Wording and Ideas (with Free RSVP)

A good Friendsgiving invitation answers three questions before anyone texts you: when to show up, what to bring, and when you need a yes.

By Hejmo6 min read

Two Friendsgiving invitations on Hejmo's painted Harvest design, in Hearth & Cream and Charcoal Harvest, each reading “Friendsgiving at the Parks’”, Saturday, November 21, 2026, 4:00 PM.
Real Hejmo invitations in the Harvest design: Hearth & Cream and Charcoal Harvest.

Short answer

A Friendsgiving invitation should give the date and start time, the address, whether it's a potluck or you're cooking, what you're covering, who's invited (partners, kids), an allergy ask, and an RSVP date. A simple version: "Friendsgiving at our place, Saturday, Nov 21 at 4 PM. We've got the turkey; bring a side or dessert. RSVP by Nov 14 with your dish and any allergies."

Make your Friendsgiving invitation

Start with the Harvest design tried on, add your details, and share one link. RSVPs and dish answers are free; guests see the design with Plus ($12).

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What to put on a Friendsgiving invitation

Friendsgiving guests have more questions than dinner guests, because most of them are cooking too. Answer these on the invitation and the replies come back complete.

  • Date and start time, plus when you'll eat if that's later: "Doors at 4, dinner around 5:30."
  • The address, with parking, buzzer, or stairs notes.
  • Potluck or hosted, and what you're already covering.
  • What to bring: a category (side, dessert, drinks) and roughly how many it should feed.
  • Who's invited: partners, roommates, kids.
  • An allergy and dietary ask.
  • An RSVP date tied to a reason, like your grocery run.
  • One link or number to reply to.

Friendsgiving invitation wording you can copy

Swap in your own date and details. Each one ends with a reply-by date, because "let me know!" gets you maybes until the day before.

Casual text

Friendsgiving at our place! Sat Nov 21, 4pm. We're doing the turkey, you bring a side or dessert. RSVP by Nov 14 here: [link]

Potluck

Friendsgiving potluck, Saturday, November 21 at 4 PM. We'll handle the turkey, drinks, and plates. Bring one dish that feeds about eight, and tell us what it is when you RSVP so we don't end up with four pies.

Hosted dinner

We're cooking this year. Join us for Friendsgiving dinner on Saturday, November 21: drinks at 5, dinner at 6. Just bring yourselves (and wine, if you like). Please RSVP by November 14 so we buy the right size turkey.

Family Friendsgiving

Family Friendsgiving! Saturday, November 21, 2 to 6 PM. Kids are welcome: there's a kids' table and a movie after dinner. When you RSVP, add everyone coming, kids included, and any food allergies.

Last-minute

Doing a last-minute Friendsgiving this Saturday at 5. Nothing fancy: a turkey breast and too many potatoes. Bring whatever you want to eat, and reply by Thursday so I know how much to make.

RSVP deadline

Please RSVP by Saturday, November 14. That's our grocery run, and we need a count for the turkey and the chairs.

Allergies and diets

Any allergies or foods you avoid? Add them when you RSVP. We'll make sure there's a vegetarian main and label anything with nuts.

Partners and plus-ones

Partners and roommates are welcome. Add them when you RSVP so they're on the count.

Copy-paste RSVP block

Paste this under the details: "Please RSVP by November 14. Tap the link, tell us who's coming and what you're bringing, and add any allergies. We'll share what's still needed so nobody doubles up."

How to ask who's bringing what

Friendsgiving plans usually come apart at the dish question. The yes arrives by text, and the dish turns up three days later in a different thread. Ask for both in the same reply.

If the headcount matters as much as the menu, for a big group or a mix of families, see how potluck RSVPs keep each household's count and dish together.

  • Say what you're covering first, so guests fill the gaps instead of guessing.
  • Ask for a category, not a recipe: side, salad, bread, dessert, drinks.
  • Ask for the dish in the RSVP itself, not in a follow-up message.
  • Name what's missing in your reminder, so the last few people pick it.

What's still needed

Friendsgiving update: we've got three pies and two salads. Still need stuffing, a green vegetable, and bread. Claim one when you RSVP: [link]

Last call

Last call for Friendsgiving RSVPs! We shop tomorrow morning. Tap the link if you haven't yet: [link]

A Friendsgiving invitation design

If you want the invitation to look like fall, Hejmo's Harvest design paints pumpkins, autumn leaves, wheat, and berries around your details. It comes in five palettes, from cream to charcoal, or your own colors. For other occasions, browse all the invitation designs.

Try it on your event for free. Guests see it once you add Plus, $12 for one event or $19 a year for every event you host, which also adds invitation styles, a custom link, a custom RSVP confirmation, and up to five RSVP questions. Until then, guests see a free cover pattern and RSVPs work the same.

  • Friendsgiving invitation in Hearth & Cream: “Friendsgiving at the Parks’” on a painted harvest design

    Hearth & Cream

  • Friendsgiving invitation in Charcoal Harvest: “Friendsgiving at the Parks’” on a painted harvest design

    Charcoal Harvest

  • Friendsgiving invitation in Mulberry Dusk: “Friendsgiving at the Parks’” on a painted harvest design

    Mulberry Dusk

The Harvest design in three of its five palettes. These are real invitations, made in Hejmo.

Collect RSVPs and dishes in one place

A group chat is a fine place to decide on Friendsgiving and a bad place to count chairs. Hejmo puts the details and the replies on one link.

Post the event's shared link in the group chat, and anyone who opens it can add their name and RSVP. Or add each household, like a couple, roommates, or a family with kids, and send each its own private link. One person answers for everyone in it, so your count is exact.

Use your free RSVP question to ask "What are you bringing?" Each answer sits next to that household's name, so the menu and the headcount live in one list. With Plus, you can ask up to five questions, so dishes and allergies come back as separate answers.

  • Guests answer Yes, No, or Maybe in two taps, with no account or app.
  • A live headcount, including partners and any extra guests you allow.
  • A ready-to-send nudge for each household that hasn't answered, which you paste into your own chat. Hejmo never messages your guests.
  • Free for unlimited events, with no ads.

What Hejmo doesn't do

It doesn't assign dishes or stop two people from bringing pie. If you want strict slots, use a sign-up sheet. For most Friendsgivings, reading the answers and naming the gaps in your reminder is enough.

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Questions

What do you write on a Friendsgiving invitation?

The date and start time, the address, whether it's a potluck or you're cooking, what guests should bring, who's invited, an allergy ask, and the date you need an RSVP by.

How far in advance should you send a Friendsgiving invitation?

Two to three weeks ahead suits most groups, and earlier helps if friends travel for Thanksgiving. Set the RSVP date about a week before, so you have time to shop.

How do you ask guests to bring a dish?

Say what you're covering, then ask for a category and a size: "We've got the turkey and drinks. Bring a side or dessert that feeds about eight, and tell us what it is when you RSVP."

How do you ask about food allergies for Friendsgiving?

Ask everyone, on the invitation: "Any allergies or foods you avoid? Add them when you RSVP." The FDA lists nine major food allergens, and Thanksgiving staples include several: wheat in stuffing and pie crust, tree nuts in pecan pie, and milk in mashed potatoes.

Is there a free Friendsgiving invitation with RSVP?

Yes. Hejmo is free for unlimited events, with no ads: RSVP tracking, one RSVP question, and nudges are included. The painted Harvest design is part of Plus ($12 for one event), and you can try it on your event for free first.

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Make your Friendsgiving invitation

Start with the Harvest design tried on, add your details, and share one link. RSVPs and dish answers are free; guests see the design with Plus ($12).

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